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As an experienced dating agency servicing Melbourne, Sydney and Canberra professionals over 40, I have the privilege of speaking to couples after their first dates. I often hear comments like, "He was nice, but I didn't feel any sparks, so I'm not sure I want to see him again," or "She was super sweet, and we had a great time, but there wasn't any chemistry. I didn't feel that spark that I usually do." These singles explain to me that they "just know" whether they will work out with someone based on the chemistry they feel on the first date.
It's worth noting that I have introduced these people to each other, meaning they haven't had much success in the past with relationships. Basing the future of a relationship on the chemistry they feel (or don't feel) on the first date hasn't been a reliable indicator of whether the relationship will succeed. Although first impressions matter, the second date can offer greater levels of chemistry as nerves reduce and walls start coming down.
So, How Crucial Is Chemistry in A Relationship?
It's vital, but it's not everything. Chemistry often doesn't happen immediately when a couple meets; it can develop over time. Therefore, a lack of initial chemistry doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is doomed.
Many singles I've spoken with cling to the romantic notion that they will feel immediate and intense chemistry when they meet the right person. However, as a professional matchmaker, I must acknowledge that this belief isn't always accurate. I have matched many couples who were initially hesitant about each other and didn't feel any chemistry. For example, one partner might have thought the other had great qualities but was too much of a "nice guy" or didn't feel like the right "type."
While chemistry is essential in a relationship, it's not the be-all and end-all. It can develop over time, and people shouldn't write off a potential partner solely based on their lack of initial chemistry. As a professional dating agency, we encourage our clients to keep an open mind and give their dates a chance to develop organically.
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As someone with years of experience as a professional dating agency founder, I know many couples who have followed my advice, given their relationship a few more dates and they have found happiness. The chemistry worked, and they eventually were happily married. Who knows!? The same might happen to you.
My advice on first-date chemistry is that first impressions aren't always accurate. While they are important, getting an accurate read on someone in just a few hours is challenging. People may be nervous or act awkwardly, altering the energy between them.
The purpose of your first date is not to find your future spouse but to determine if there's enough potential for a second date.
If you find that you have much in common and enjoy their company, that's reason enough to see them again, even if there weren't any fireworks.
Don't mistake sexual attraction for relationship chemistry. While sexual attraction is essential to a relationship, it doesn't guarantee you're a good match. Conversely, the lack of sexual attraction on the first date doesn't mean it won't develop later. One woman I worked with went on a date with a guy she had fun with but wasn't initially physically attracted to. On my recommendation, she gave the relationship a few more dates, and she confidently expressed physical attraction to him later. Despite having no first-date chemistry, they are now happily discussing getting married.
Aim for Three Dates
Try to go on at least three dates with an open heart and mind. This means you choose to stay open to becoming more attracted to the good qualities of your date. It's a commitment to get to know them better and see if something more might develop.
Prioritise Commonalities Over First-Date Chemistry
The intoxicating feeling of a relationship lasts for only two years. After that, creating bonds of commonalities – goals, dreams, hobbies – sustains a relationship and cultivates true love.
Recognising and growing takes time. For some people, it takes a while to recognise the spark, but that doesn't make it any less wonderful when you do. Whether fireworks go off when you first meet or after you've been dating for a while, it's still incredible. You only reach that point by getting to know each other and evaluating your time together in terms of whether you enjoyed yourself and were truly able to be yourself around them. Suppose your date consistently hits a six or seven (out of ten). In that case, that's pretty good and has better long-term relationship potential than someone who occasionally hits a nine but averages around a three.
So, don't judge a date solely on the first date chemistry you feel. If everything else looks good, be willing to try to see what else might develop. This couple was smart because they gave themselves a chance, not just as a couple but also as individuals. If they hadn't gone on a second and third date, they could have missed out on the person they are now in a romantic, passionate, and compatible relationship with.
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